Once Upon a time....

One Sappy Story


Well I’ve decided I’m taking a break from my boring homework and writing a blog! I’m having such a hard time with English II and I don’t know why! English has always been my favorite subject…until now! Oh well..

So I guess I thought while I’m still a sappy newlywed (ha-ha) that I would write the story of how we met somewhere. Now I did make a little profile on The Knot but I never finished it! So…I’m blogging it instead! Matt thinks blogging is so weird but he just doesn’t get it! Maybe one day I’ll get him to blog, yeah right!

Once upon a time…..just kidding! Well it all started in 2005! I was working at a vocational school as a Student Advisor and well Matt and his Mom were students. I met them during their second week while I was doing their “New Student Interviews” and making ID badges. I had actually talked to Matt’s Mom, Donna before but briefly. I believe she came into my office one day and saw my picture of Arnold Scott on my shelf. She asked me about my precious pug and of course I had a mouthful to say about it! She told me about her dogs and we talked for a few minutes. I think that day was the first time I had really remembered actually looking at Matt. I thought he was a good looking guy with a LOT of charm! Those Phelps men and their charm! Matt came into my office to get him Mom and said hello to me too. We had met already since I was his advisor but he said something about my pug picture as well. They were not in my office long and off they went. I remember I was working with Mary Jane, Melody and Sarah J at the time. I remember when Matt and Donna left I was on cloud nine! I remember telling my co-workers…” When I am ready for a serious relationship…he’s going to be the one!” I also happened to say, “I’m going to marry him one day.” Ask them!
I think my co-workers were in shock. At the time I had just turned the corner and left my teens…I was only twenty. I had gone through a “party” stage that year. I had dated a few guys here and there but nothing serious. I just wasn’t a serious girl at the time. I wanted to hang out with my friends and didn’t really have time for guys. I worked hard and partied hard…that was my life then. Around May or June I had settled down quite a bit. I was over the whole party stuff and wanted to move on. I started staying in when my roomies went out, reading rather than going out for a drink, and well just growing up.

Ok enough about me back to the story….
Well the day I had make Donnas student ID we were in the ID room and she was talking to me as she always did. I thought she was just the sweetest lady! She was asking me questions and making small talk when she said, “My son thinks you are so cute.” I think I probably turned bright red. I just laughed and told her thank you. I really didn’t know what to say. That was totally against the rules. I was his advisor; he was my student, no way. I don’t remember too many details I just remember Matt smiling at me a lot in the hallway and always stopping by my office to say hello. Donna and Matt don’t know this because it’s an embarrassing, silly thing that girls do… but when Matt would come in or Donna would come into the office the girls would say…” There’s your Mother in Law” or “There’s your husband.” Little did we all know…he became my hubby and she is my mother in law!!! Strange huh?
The day the “magic” started happening. Matt’s class came down to get their id badges made. Donna came first with her class and Matt’s came another day. Since the ID room is so small I had to make each ID one at a time. When Matt me in he came in with his charm…of course. I asked him for all his information and took his picture. While his ID was printing I kind of broke the ice and said, “Someone told me that you think I’m cute?” He just smiled because he probably knew exactly who and went along with it. He beat around the bush a little but I got my confirmation that he did think I was cute! Such a fun time…being twenty and getting the butterflies!
Matt continued to stop by my office and talk to me. He wouldn’t talk to me long but he would stop by and ask how my day was and make small talk. Finally he got the courage to ask me out, finally! It happened one night when I was walking the halls and collecting attendance. The halls were empty but Matt came out into the hall. He stopped me and said hello. I thought that was odd because he needed to be in class. He then asked me if he could ask me on a date. I told him that I wasn’t allowed to date the students and I would be fired if I did. Of course his little charming self said, “Well you can trust me.” I just laughed and told him I would think about it. That was that…what was I to do?
Later that week he came by my office to ask if I had thought about it. I told him yes. I wrote my number on my card and gave it to him. Later that evening while it was his “break time” he came down to my office. All of my other co-workers had gone home and the office was quiet. He sat down in my chair and spilled the beans. He told me that he was 25, divorced and had 2 kids. He told me that he lived with his sister and was trying to get back on his feet which is partly why he was in school. I was blown away. Here I was twenty years old and interested in a guy. He’s telling me that he’s got kids. At twenty I had never dated anyone with kids….I had never really dated anyone seriously at all. He knew I was younger than him but he didn’t know how much. I told him my age and I think he was surprised. I think he thought I wouldn’t be able to handle dating someone with children. Matt told me that he wanted to put it all on the table …and if I didn’t want to go out with him after that I didn’t have to. He understood it was a lot to soak in. I told him that I appreciated him being upfront with me but I still wanted to get to know him better. So guess what…I prayed about it.
The rest is history! I think this is such a silly story! It’s not anything super romantic but I love our story! I think its fun! I think about how we both ended up in the same place at the same time. How random? A guy from Rowlett and a girl from Grapevine…in one random place.
If I would have been able to hold it together at the wedding…I would have given a small speech about how much my Mom would have loved Matt but I knew I would fall apart while speaking! I wanted to avoid meltdowns that day! I KNOW my Mom would have loved Matt. I don’t think I’ve told this story in a blog before but if I have…here it is again!
When I was younger in high school I struggled with the issues every girl struggles with in high school. Am I pretty enough, am I skinny enough, am I popular enough blah blah. Now looking back it’s really unimportant but back then that’s your world. You don’t know anything else! I didn’t date much back in high school and throughout high school I never had a “serious” boyfriend. Of course like every other teenager I automatically thought something had to be wrong with me. I remember my Mom telling me that she’s glad I didn’t have a lot of boyfriends in high school because I didn’t have to go through heartbreak. She was confident that when I was older (out of high school) I would meet someone and that would be it. I wouldn’t have to go through heartbreak after heartbreak. I feel like that’s a gift from God himself. Another reminder that he listens. I have never been through a “first love” heartbreak. I have been hurt but it was for other reasons….Matt is my first love! I think God knew how heartbreaking it was to lose my Mother so maybe he saved me from going through that. I don’t know..I’m only guessing! Either way I am blessed to have married such a wonderful man!

Hope you enjoyed my sappy blog!